So, I raised in a culture that revolves around family, which means that there is a lot of emphasis on getting married. Which is very common in many cultures, but not necessarily a huge part of common Western culture.
Seriously, no one really emphasizes getting married really young anymore outside of religions. And even though I am not religious anymore it still affects me.
Anyways, the whole getting married thing seems to come in waves, not gradually.
Obviously a lot of people who I grew up with are on the “hunt” for their soul mates, so it’s only natural that a lot of them would get married. But again it seems to always happen at once, not over time.
Like in 2011, about 6 people who I grew up with got married.
Which I was only 19 then, so it’s not like that is a common age where everyone is getting married.
But in 2012, no one I know got married. Everyone just kept their hands and rings to themselves, which is exactly what they taught us in elementary school. It makes me feel very secure with my ongoing singleness when we obey Kindergarten rules.
But anyways, the start of 2013 and 3 people I know are already getting married. 3 people I have known since I was at least 9 years old.
One of them is a girl who I went to high school with who is a year younger than me. So she is about 19, barely 20 and she is engaged?
What the hell everyone?
Anyways, I guess people getting married is a part of being in your 20s. I just don’t know if it’s as much a part of your early, early 20s.
And I find it slightly annoying that so many people are finding happiness with other people and I am still working on trying to get friends.
SO! People I grew up with are doing things that should be done in their late 20s and I am doing things that I should have done in 1st grade.
I don’t know if that makes me immature or stuck in arrested development, but I guess that I have to work with what I got.
No, in the end I don’t think I am ready to get married even if I were in a relationship with someone who asked me. I have a lot of stuff I need to do before I can do that.
Objectively I realize it could just seem that way, because I don’t have someone I could imagine marrying in my life right now.
But either way, it doesn’t seem to be in the cards and I have a lot of things I need to do before tying myself forever to a guy. (I am talking about school things. Get your mind out of the gutter.)
When thinking about writing this post, this was the song that came to mind:
I like this song because who doesn’t like the Zombies?
But I also like the conceit going on in this song.
What’s your name? Who’s your daddy? Is he rich? Is he rich like me?
So freaking subtle right there. I wish men would try to pick up on me like that. Especially since my dad isn’t rich, so it would make this very conceited young male feel even more condescending.
Anyways, people are getting married and I am not.
I am just screwing around doing things like getting a degree and working full-time.
What the hell am I doing with my life?